Just for the record this post has been inspired by La La Land, if you haven’t watched it and even if musicals aren’t your thing I would highly recommend checking it out. It’s got a beautiful message and I won’t dwell on the nitty gritty of the story line but it made me remember how much I love coincidences…or the Latin pronunciation of the word… coinkidink (lol).

When I was younger I strongly believed that there is no such thing as a coincidence and that everything always happens for a reason because everything is connected in one way or another. It is my most favourite type of circumstance and whether it’s a surprise or shock or annoyance I love the rush of emotions one feels in a circumstance of a coincidence. Being a bit older I now believe that a coincidence is just a coincidence and it doesn’t mean anything. Funny how views change.

After I was done with the movie (which I watched today, well yesterday since it is past midnight here) I was telling my friend how much I loved the concept it showed and how coincidences are just the best. We went to dinner and lo and behold on the table not far from us I see a group of people I have been aquatinted with in the past, however my friend who introduced me to this group of people wasn’t there so I didn’t go up and greet them. I was shy and a little afraid that maybe they don’t remember me and I didn’t want to go through the embarrassment.

Almost being done with dinner my friend actually shows up and so I go up to say hi (it would just be plain rude if I didn’t and also because she is a really good friend of mine). I tapped her on her arm as she was hugging someone hello and when she turns to me her eyes widen and she gives me the biggest hug and literally lifts me off my feet! I’ve never experienced such happiness to see me. The surprise on her face was priceless and just incredible.

Friends are such a pure form of blessings and tonight made me realise that maybe everything really does happen for a reason and it’s not just coincidence. In this specific situation, I guess the truth will reveal itself in time as it always does. Maybe, just maybe I’ll start believing in fate again and how everything may truly be connected, the way I used to when I was younger.

(Featured image: found by google image searching “coincidence”)

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Two peas in a pod 

I understand the concept behind this saying but if you’ve ever taken peas out of a pod you will notice that the peas are rarely ever the same. It makes me curious as to why the saying means that when two people are alike they’re like “two peas in a pod”

Maybe it means that because the peas were in the same place they must be alike, however if this concept is applied to twins who are the closest it comes to being “two peas” in a “pod” it doesn’t apply there either because twins are rarely ever alike, even if identical.

It’s odd how people come up with such sayings and odder still when it actually become a “thing”.

Alas, it is what it is. 🙂

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Happiness is overrated

Let’s face it, happiness is cake. Simple.

The pursuit of happiness, what does that even mean? Is happiness something that can be achieved? It is something that I often find myself wondering about. The curious thing is that happiness is not tangible so I agree with the notion of ‘you cannot buy happiness’. You can not wait for happiness, it is not something that is around the corner coming your way and it is not something you can work towards.

Scientifically it can be broken down to be dopamine, maybe, which is a compound present in the body as a neurotransmitter and a precursor of other substances including adrenaline (as defined in the oxford dictionary).It is synthesised in the brain and the kidneys. Which would explain why Katut in Eat, Pray, Love asked Liz if she was smiling from her kidneys.

I have learnt that happiness is within you, it is your core, kind of like you have a switch inside you and all you have to do is turn it on. It is not the designer bag you have always wanted and finally got, it’s not getting your dream job or your dream car or your dream house (you get my gist). My grandfather told me when I was very young, ‘Fatima if you want to compare your life to someone, compare it to those who are worse off than you, that way you will never be unhappy and at the same time look at those who are better off and grow from it,’ It is something that stayed with me.

Maybe happiness is within you, it is how you feel when you step out and have a cool breeze touching your face as the warm glorious sun gleams down at you. It is marshmallows in your hot chocolate with whipped cream on a cold winter’s night or any hot drink that spreads the warmth inside of you and makes you believe that everything is going to be ok. Happiness is coming home to your family. Coming home and having your cat/dog greet you. It’s the simple things in life.

Happiness is so many things, that when you think about it you can not say it is just one thing because it is everything. 🙂

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Swirly Clouds and Violet Haze

It is my new year’s resolution to write a piece everyday, since practice makes perfect and I love to write. I was not sure what to write about today so I turned to google for inspiration and discovered this idea: “Put your iPod/Spotify on shuffle, grab the lyric that appears 1:35 into the song, and write from there” I didn’t follow this exactly, I’ve had Josh Groban’s song “Vincent” (originally sung by Don Mclean) stuck in my mind for sometime so I played it and at 1:35 he sings the title of this post. Really paints an image, doesn’t it? Who doesn’t love swirly clouds and violet haze?

Vincent’s Starry Night painting, truly is a masterpiece, he was a great artist and it’s a shame that great artists are only recognised for their work after they have left this world filled with swirly clouds and violet haze, trees and daffodils. It’s such a curious thing, the way artists are not recognised, makes me wonder if back in the day social media would have made them famous faster? I understand why an artist’s popularity increases when they have died, since everyone is beautifully unique and no one can replicate another’s talents 100%. Vincent’s story makes me sad, I was not aware until today that he painted Starry Night from an asylum window, really shows you his perspective of how he viewed the world and how beautiful his perspective was.

This reminds me of a line from John Green’s novel “The Fault in our stars” when Gus says that he fears oblivion. Mostly because if one of Vincent Van Gough’s fears were oblivion, I would go back in time and tell him, have no fear because you will always be remembered…:)

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Truth in the stars?

There is something about Astronomy and astrology that has made people ponder about for centuries. I won’t go into the science of it as I am no expert, but for those of you that don’t know the difference, Astronomy is the study of the universe and its contents outside of Earth’s atmosphere. Astronomers examine the positions, motions, and properties of celestial objects. Astrology attempts to study how those positions, motions, and properties affect people and events on Earth.

Personally I find astrology fascinating as it makes me think that everything in the universe is connected and at the same time nothing is also connected (anyone watch Dirk Gently’s Holistic Detective Agency? It’s a great show). I believe things are more connected than we are led to believe. Continue reading “Truth in the stars?”

Shrimps are logical.

I read a random fact today, the kind of fact that doesn’t really add any value to your life, unless you’re a marine biologist. A shrimp’s heart is inside of its head. I found that to be very curious and thought provoking. Oh to be a shrimp, imagine all the mistakes they can avoid because following their heart is using their head, so in their world, logic and passion is probably one in the same.

It makes me wonder how humans would react if we were programmed the same way, the world would be free of chaos and would be filled with utmost peace, almost robot like. I guess, since human beings have a tendency to get bored so easily by every little thing, it’s good that our hearts are not in our heads. As wonderful as it would be to be in a world full of peace and harmony, it would be emotionless and we might as well be rocks or well shrimps for that matter.

It also makes me wonder if the concept of you are what you eat would apply here, in that case I’m curious to test out maybe even by a survey, how logical a person is in relation to the amount of shrimps s/he consumes.  Of course this is just speculation, random thoughts without much logic. For the record, I am somewhat allergic to shrimp so I don’t eat it (not often), it may even explain why I act irrationally at times…food for thought?

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Twenty Sixteen

This year started with my brother waking me up at 00:00 (I fell asleep around 11pm on 31st December 2015) and saying Happy New Year Fatima as I lay there in a haze between sleep and pretending to be awake, I blinked a few times and remembered that we were watching the Christmas special episode of Sherlock so I asked Saad, “what did I miss?”

Funny way to start a new year and if I look back, there is much I will miss about 2016 and as it comes to a close I thought to quickly jot down a few monumental moments of the year. It has been a challenging year, to say the least however it is in my DNA to spin every challenge into something positive (alhamdulillah).

This is the year I became independent, completely living on my own with no help. 3rd March 2016, I signed the papers for my own (rented) apartment and I moved in within the next couple of weeks. It’s a small studio, in Bay Square and it’s the best. It’s the year I travelled on my own and went to foreign places and felt completely confident to explore solo. It’s not a big bad world as we are led to believe, it’s actually a wonderful world filled with so much beauty, it’s good to be cautious but I will not be afraid anymore. It’s the year I decided to take control of my life, in a strategic way by freeing myself from toxic energy (aka people who do not have a place in my life anymore). So in hindsight, I’d like to take back my previous statement, it’s been a great year.

I travelled to Budapest and I explored by walking everywhere, it was the first time I realised that I can be completely by myself in a new place, be content, confident and enjoy myself. Travelled to Prague with my cousin and we stayed in old town square and it was magnificent. Also went to Berlin and walked everywhere. Went to Hamburg for a work event and loved every moment of it. 2016 is when my adventure called life truly began, everything before this year has been a prologue. I’ve become better at spotting assholes and walking away without trying to make it work. I’ve stopped putting my energy into helping someone who doesn’t want to be helped. Lastly I’ve learnt to walk away from a lost cause, no matter how much I may not want to.

It’s been a year where many of my friends dear to me got married/engaged. My best friend gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, who is pure joy to be around. Sure it’s been a heck of an emotional year (hence me calling it challenging) and as I live, I learn that without the bitter, the sweet ain’t so sweet. Being grateful is crucial, everyone is going through crap everyday and joy really does stem from the simplest things.

That sums up the year, completed this year by being in London for most of December, which made me realise that I need to move back as soon as possible.

2016… you’ve been great. InshaAllah 2017 will be magnificent in the best of ways because it just will. 🙂

Below are just a select few photographs of my year.

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